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I just want to be healthyevery person ever
We hear it ALL the time. But WHAT DOES IT EVEN MEAN!? I can tell you what society consistently tells us it means: skinny. That’s it. But is health only tied to our weight? Or body shape? Or some made up ratio? To that I say NOPE! That’s a big effin’ nope. I have a pretty darn good argument as to what healthy actually is, and since you’re here I’m going to verbal vomit it on you.
I am healthy. Yes, me. With my love handles and diet coke in hand. I say this because ‘health’ is so much more than appearances, what we eat, or how small our skinny jeans are. Health is a state of mind, a constantly evolving ideal that we’ll never quite obtain before it evolves again. But right now, at this moment, I am healthy. And I will tell you why.
Healthy is NOT skinny
Hate to break it to you folks, but obtaining your ‘ideal’ weight does not automatically make you healthy. Sure, I should lose a few of these pounds, but keeping them on doesn’t immediately make me unhealthy. I know plenty of ‘skinny’ people with severe health issues. I see many of them smoke, or do drugs, or refuse to eat because they are obsessed with STAYING skinny. None of that is healthy. Our physical weight is only one small facet of ‘healthy’. And even then, we are all trying to make ourselves fit into a little box that someone made a long time ago declaring what was a ‘healthy weight’ and what was not. Pardon my language, but that is complete bullshit.
Even if we’re considered over (or under) weight we can still be fit, strong, and happy. I’d argue that makes a fluffy person such as myself healthy if we’re doing all the other things. Of course, weight CAN cause issues, so if it’s a problem for you, then, by all means, work on it! But if it’s just an aesthetic thing like it is for me… I say fuck it.
Healthy Habits do not have to be ALL your habits
Please don’t take this as an excuse to go binge drinking, start smoking a pack a day, or grab your recreational drug of choice… because it’s not. However, NO ONE is 100% in their healthy habits every day. If you say you are I will bug your house and yell at you through a hidden microphone the first time I catch you binge eating cheese from the fridge. Don’t make me be that weirdo.
I drink Diet Coke sometimes. I have days where I indulge in a candy bar or margarita. Does this make me unhealthy? NO! The way I look at it being healthy is making 51% good choices. As long as I am juuuuust over the line in terms of decisions regarding my food/water/habits then it was a healthy day. And I need 51% of my days to be healthy days. Give yourself some grace people, no one is perfect. The lower you set the bar, the more likely you are to succeed. Then you can raise it! But don’t forget to lower it again from time to time.
You see, from my perspective, the people who are SO STRICT (without medical necessity like Celiac Disease) are sort of miserable to be around. They tend to either be preachy or a total killjoy. In order to be healthy, I think you NEED to have some balance. Or at least know when to let others have balance without comment or complaint.
Healthy is a choice
To be healthy you really need to have a good mindset. You can be a physical masterpiece, but if you are a miserable person are you REALLY healthy? I say no. Don’t get me wrong, healthy people can have bouts of depression, anxiety, or doubt. That’s all part of being human! But if you are constantly miserable, you need to get your mind right. Or at least be working on it.
For this reason, I would argue that those suffering from mental illness, and seeking treatment, might be healthier than most when it comes to mindset because we are deep in the weeds on this particular topic.
If you are choosing wisely 51% of the time 51% of the days I think you are ‘healthy’. Because you are taking an active role in your well-being. Simple as that.
Healthy is not a concrete destination
‘Working on getting healthy’ or ‘wanting to be healthy’ are like trying to grab a star. It isn’t going to happen! ‘Healthy’ is constantly changing. It’s a journey through life, a selection of everyday choices, and a decision we make within ourselves.
Think of it this way, had I been born in Victorian times I would be the ideal body type: soft and curvy. But I was born in the ’80s and hit puberty in the ’90s which means rail thin was the ideal. So naturally I thought I was ‘unhealthy’. Even though I can run a half marathon, even though I eat more vegetables than sugar, even thought I have overcome victim mindset… I let the fad of my time dictate perception health. I call bullshit. ‘Healthy’ changes ALL. THE. TIME. So we need to adapt our thinking too. How do you FEEL? That’s what really matters!
So we know what healthy is not. So what IS it?
In my humble opinion, ‘healthy’ is a choice. It is a state of being where we have our demons under control mentally, we are working on our physical bodies to improve them, and we are making MOSTLY good choices. It’s that simple.
I have Type 1 Diabetes and Celiac Disease. Does that automatically make me unhealthy? Hell no! If they’re under control, which they both are, I am no different than anyone else. I may not look like an Instagram model but I could probably beat one up. I can easily outrun many of them. Because I AM healthy. In all the ways that matter.
What do I do to stay healthy?
Therapy is therapy and everyone needs it. Juice Plus gives me the edge of knowing that I am getting in the good stuff from 30+ fruits and vegetables every day without questions. Prioritizing some form of exercise keeps my body moving and my mind clear. And by evaluating my choices to be MOSTLY good I allow myself the things I am craving while also ensuring I am heading in the right direction. Even with these simple parameters I often fail at ‘healthy’. But that’s ok! After all, what is the point of this life if we don’t enjoy living it?
Guys, I am not some fitness guru or nutrition phenom. I am a regular (awkward) person who knows that when I am making good decisions, working on myself, and loving who I am at the moment… I am happy. And when I am happy, I sure as hell feel healthy. Don’t let the media and photoshopped pictures make you feel like you AREN’T healthy… because you are. If you choose to be.
If you ever want to see my ‘healthy’ life feel free to stalk all my social media or send me some smoke signals!